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the second L'Chaim post

A long videostory this morning on CBS News out of New York about secrets to living a longer life. Dr. Richard Dupee at Tufts University was filmed; he's a specialist in geriatrics and Tufts is only a few km from where I'm typing this.

In addition to a diet that does not eat you from the inside out [translation: eat like they do in Japan, Omega-3 fatty acids and the rest, --- Japan, where world life expectancy is the longest] --- there are emo factors that make great contributions.

The leadoff item was to have a support system of friends: "This is not like having 150 friends on MySpace, but at least one person in real life who, at the end of the day, will care about you if your day has been rotten, you don't feel well, someone you can go visit and share that with, because they are there, present for you, and they will care about that, and you know they will." The point was that this will relieve the emo stress that drives the physical stress which can actually alter your body and subtract years off your physical life.

They actually poked at MySpace and that got my attention tout suite.

It was almost the exact same phrasing -- and it WAS the exact same need -- that Kiota wrote about, not once but many times --- a need for just one single friendship that she didn't have and couldn't create in her real life here in America: "It always turns out the same and I'm sick of trying." Actually, making her more physically sick too.

When I cited her support among her cyberfamily members to her, she simply replied, "It isn't the same."

Of course not.

It can save your life. And she knew and felt that.
Or subtract it, at any age, really. As we all too well know.

This icon is part of a series of flower shots she took near her grandparents' home in Idaho; there is sun and warmth and energy and growth and beauty going on here. And her heart is behind her eye behind her camera, as it always is with her creative work. If there's any one single thing I hold to the most, it's that: the messages behind the pixels.

Which are timeless and immortal, really.

In fact, creative work and branching out in new directions are also things cited in the video report that are good for your physical health. And that's great to hear.


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Jul. 22nd, 2008 09:16 pm (UTC)
What I like here, Brad, is the emphasis on real-life friends. You are both right about that: the internet is great, but my internet friends that mean the most to me are generally the ones I have contact with OUTSIDE the internet, like picking up a telephone and calling (sometimes this is impossible, of course, due to where everyone lives). I live most of my life OFFLINE and it definitely works out the best for me that way!
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Jul. 23rd, 2008 04:28 am (UTC)
And, Mari: glad you think they'd listen to you. Maybe someday you'll be more able to reach out to them.... and it works both ways, too! :)
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Jul. 24th, 2008 02:24 am (UTC)
Yep, certainly no sub for F 2 F, agreed! So I'll remember that :)

However it was the only way to wake her up some of the time, so I lurved me my phone: it was a bridge.
Jul. 23rd, 2008 04:22 am (UTC)
It happened that I started to tutor online when one of my Vietnamese students [whom I had a long history with, F 2 F] went to Harvard on an internship and sent me journal entries every evening, for the whole semester, to help correct. This was Medical Report Journaling [with Harvard MD's looking over your shoulder, it's FAR from what we call journaling here!!]...and it was something new and I <3d it...but I agree totally with your last sentence.

By tonight I've only been active on my personal LJ for about a year now so I still feel like a newbie and I'm only here at all because Kiota was all -pokepoke- at me *a whole lot* to set one up so she could Friend me into her newly-locked one. To keep me in her locked circle. She hates cellphones, so journaling and Emailing were the ways to touch each other before my trip out there. [What kind of mixed blessing *that* was, I'm still finding out ..... :) ]

We'd actively been Emailing for two+ years before that.

But after April 13 this all took on a cyberlife of its own, as it still has now, and....well, Amy, I confess to being enchanted that I'm talking publicly and privately with "users" all over the world, more of whom I'm apparently going to meet soonish. I'm more enchanted that I have this place to work out my own mourning and they can work out theirs as they choose.

But having Friends like that is apparently par for the course in LJ cyberspace. It still boggles me, to this day, that Kiota listed 199+ Friends and 464 "Friends Of" people in her profile.

However, it didn't boggle me at all that "I don't talk to them much" and she whined about not meeting any more than five or six of them IRL. Which she'd done, mostly, IRL beforehand --- like you've done.

Back a bit before Ki, I actually wrote parts of a play with an undergrad in theatre ed in North Carolina, and that was a total delight, and we did it all through almost simultaneous Emails [hundreds of them, in fact, bouncing dialogue off each other and plotlines, the subject was anorexia {which she has and I don't}]... she graduated after producing it as a senior and we're out of each other's cyberlives now without actually ever meeting. *Janie listed something like 200 Friends in hers, and I sitll do not understand this. She mostly hated her roommates, too.

So Kiota is the second person I have ever actually personally met after journaling to / with, beforehand, and meeting the first one of them had been 10 days before that Tuesday night, and that was an absolute disaster.

So I am on what's called "a steep learning curve" here ;)
Jul. 23rd, 2008 05:16 am (UTC)
Oh, the Internet is wonderful, I'll grant you that. Some of the people I call quite a bit I met here. It's just that it can't solve all your problems or meet all your needs by a long shot, and I definitely see people try to rely on it for all that.

Sounds like YOU'RE really far from Internet addiction, though! (This actually exists, and is such a problem in South Korea they have built camps to treat it!!!)
Jul. 24th, 2008 02:28 am (UTC)
HA, Meow, I *do* feel myself sliding sometimes! But I'm not really addicted, now + then time starts disappearing, though, at the keyboard....and that's interesting about *South* Korea, I usually think of camps just North of them, used for entirely different purposes!
Jul. 24th, 2008 05:24 am (UTC)
Yes, South Korea is an interesting place. Only place in the world I know of where you can make six figures being a VIDEO GAME STAR!
Jul. 23rd, 2008 09:43 am (UTC)
You know, I agree that a Japanese diet is the best to lengthen life because, come on, Japan has the lowest obesity rate in the developed world.

I would certainly have no problem whatsoever with eating a mostly Japanese diet, but sadly, I don't have the resources near me to make that possible--there aren't any Asian Markets close enough to me & most of the ones I know of are Indian, not Oriental.

Also, it's expensive as fuck for me to even make the one Asian dish that I do once a year, not to mention *VERY* time-consuming, & I'm sorry, I just don't have oodles of time that I can spend on cooking. I have discovered a couple of sites that I can purchase ingredients & things from, but I haven't gotten up the nerve to do that yet.

As for the emotional factors, I agree with you 100%.
Jul. 24th, 2008 02:34 am (UTC)
Yeah, it's this whole mind-body interaction that Eastern medicine has recognized for eons but that we are just catching up with in the West. Holistic healing methods rock.

And hopefully that when this once-a-year-day comes, you have eaters to help appreciate all your work!
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