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kiota and a new flash from LJ Tech support

This is from the same Tech Member who emailed me yesterday:

"I am truly sorry that this journal had to be suspended, as it was serving as a place of mourning for you and the others who knew Kiota. We have to follow the wishes of the family, however.

It is possible to have the journal reopened and made into a memorial account, but her family needs to request this. If you or anyone else know members of her family, you could contact them regarding this journal and see if they wish to change their minds on this decision."


I think the most appropriate person to do this is Lois, if she wishes. Maybe I'm another such person. But I'm not on site as she is, and don't have near the history or the closeness with her family that she does.



Jun. 21st, 2008 10:09 am (UTC)
Brad, no, this is not about how close I was or how sick I am. Please don't try to sugar-coat things and turn them into poetry.
The facts are that yes, we all miss Anna, and we all miss her LJ, and some of us are sufferring this loss to a point where it becomes very hard to maintain a firm grasp on life. But this is not about us anymore. It is a healing tool for some of us, to be reading her words, but Sue and Tom shared their daughter with us for 19 years [minus 17 days], and it is their right to not share anymore. And it doesn't make them bad people. It makes them simply parents, not to Anna but to 5 more children, who need to somehow make peace with everything that happened, regroup as a family, and move on. And I think that with all due respect to our own pain, it would be very selfish to request the journal back for our own needs - not because our own needs are insiginificant, but because frankly, we can't even begin to imagine their pain, and emailing them and asking them to open the journal because we need it and we want it and we are suicidal if it's not there, would be guilt-tripping them, and they've had enough of that. Their responcibility is to care for themselves and their children. None of us here is their child.
Jun. 21st, 2008 10:17 am (UTC)
Hmm. No, I don't think of myself as a sugarcoater or as a maker of inappropriate poetry. I'm using my J to be honest. Like you are.

What I was about to add was my *great* appreciation of your courage, which you use, and use so well, to go through each day of your life and grow.

So. I've added that right here. With the same honesty.

Edited at 2008-06-21 10:18 am (UTC)
Jun. 21st, 2008 10:20 am (UTC)
Brad, I appreciate your kind words, I really do. But I just don't think that my CF or my courage have anything to do with the subject we'talking about here, that's all.
Jun. 21st, 2008 10:34 am (UTC)
Thank you.
Jun. 21st, 2008 10:38 am (UTC)
I apologize if I offended you.
Jun. 21st, 2008 11:54 am (UTC)
Nuu, Lois, you didn't at all. But I'll surely accept your apology all the same!

In each of our separate ways, your love for her and my love for her are both so strong that the fur stands up on the backs of our necks now and then....we three certainly state the things we believe in, with power, too.

I want to apologize to *you*, too, with the same " if ".

Edited at 2008-06-21 11:55 am (UTC)


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