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a beautiful day with lotus82

I was amazed that there weren't any checkpoints on the second floor [there are, everywhere else in Israel.] A doctor even walked me to her door. Hadassah University Medical Center in Ein Kerem. E-K is a district in Jerusalem, New City.

I walked into this small quad room and saw this blaze of red hair just beyond a big fan, which blocked the rest of her face. I smiled at her and said "Lois?" She smiled back, uncertainly. Then I reminded her who I was and she returned the smile.

I expected maybe 15 minutes tops and we tore a big chunk out of two hours. Thought she'd be passed out and I'd just slide a note under her pillow, or leave it on the table, and take off.

In those two hours, twice she said sadly, "You have to go now?" So I sat right back down, of course. At one point her mom walked away for awhile and the orderly came in and stretched the curtain around us, and I was so close that I had to move my left leg so she could work at raising her right one.

So, that's close.

Last week Wednesday, when I was going through security in JFK in New York for El Al, she was riding the train home with her mom. It was after the first screening session that she last posted about. She got off at her stop, mom continued one more to her own home.

She joined two other people and they looked both ways, started to cross the street.

A car out of control hit the group, Lois got the first impact. The other two were fine: treated and released.

The front of the car broke her right hip and threw her up onto the hood where her body shattered the windshield: that broke her right shoulder. She catapulted over onto the street face down, cut her forehead and broke her nose. What she remembers right now is only that she was lying face down in a widening pool of blood screaming for her mom, was her mom okay?

An onlooker came up to where she was lying and told her not scream, the ambulance was on the way.

So you've almost been killed by a car and you can't move and you're in shock and you're making too much noise?

Welcome to Israel.

They scooted her over to the local ER and stabilized her, then off to his humongous medical center complex that takes up the whole top of one of the hills. When they thought she could stand it, major surgery last Friday: reset nose, stitches in her forehead, pins in her shoulder, opened up her whole pelvic area and reconstructed her hip: more pins deep into her hip and staples all across her lower abdomen.

The blessed things were: no brain injury at all, no lung injuries whatever, her lower arms and legs are fine. "I wouldn't have made it" if there had been any further lung damage.

She'd been moved out of bed into this big chair, and she sat there with an oxygen tube feed into both nostrils and a morphine drip into her L arm [with me winding my feet around the morphine pole], surrounded by high tech machinery readouts and smiling like a sunbeam.

She suddenly and totally reminded me of Eva. In that way.

She could adjust the morphine any time she wanted and the oxygen feed beeped the nurses' station when it got low.

And she wanted me to take a picture. WHAT ??? ????

"This is very fucked" that she does not have John in bed with her, or Tuchis the cat, or the other cat in bed too, but she let me hold Toby. Toby is a little calico doggie toy that IS in her bed and whom she posed amid the tubes in the picture. He sat on my knee for awhile.

I told her I would make the shot into a billboard and plaster it all over Jerusalem because I was so happy to find her so feisty and so Lois-like ---- and she gave me a nasty look and made me promise to do no such thing. Instead I promised to Gmail her a copy.

Mom was very pleased at the pic, Lois couldn't sit up enough to see it in the cam display panel [weak, and way too many tubes in the way.]

I know you will be all frantic to see this [at least I know three of you will] and I promise to find a spiffy host computer as soon as I can, in order to download it.

Prognosis is that she is being released to her parents' home ASAP because of potential hospital infections breezing around, and because it has a lot more room than their apartment in Beer Sheva: wheelchair for three months and lots of intensive physical rehab. But she will be able to walk again just fine. While I was there an intern came in to take a blood sample for sugar readouts [little pinprick into a finger, they didn't want me to leave] ... it's high, so the diabetes problem is still very much there, along with the CF.

I asked her what she was going to remember tomorrow about my visit and she said, "Oh, I'll remember you were here and everything we talked about, but not many details." Included: Kiota, Kiota and the Roommates, Kiota's mom, crazy taxi drivers in Israel, school tutoring [she had just finished her last grading for papers, the day before this all happened], John, her parents, Eva {especially!}, and LJ..... I told her her typing hands looked fine *big smile from her* and she wants to get back on here as soon as she can.

She promised that the next time we meet she will look totally different.

*I* am totally different right now.

I "walked" out of there totally floating. She reallyReally appreciated my visit.

Lois is a totally awesome gift.

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emeraldwilwarin
Aug. 28th, 2008 07:44 am (UTC)
I feel like I could start to cry reading this entry, but in a good way. Because she's okay, and because your visit with her is tangible proof that once again she'll rise from the ashes like the indestructible woman she is. And also, forgive me for this, but mixed with the intense relief is also a pang of envy. Because Lois is the brightest light in my life -- she is for many people, and it would be selfish of me to think otherwise -- and I so desperately wish for a moment with her like you had. When you see her again, please tell her that Kayla loves her.
silverplate88
Aug. 28th, 2008 08:28 am (UTC)
Kayla, I think you should Email her about that, yourself. I know she'll appreciate it. And she's going to be up to reading LJ messages and posts and her own Emails very soon.

I might not see her again for awhile so it would be quicker this way ... but of course I'll be happy to pass this along for you, then!
kala_ayule
Aug. 28th, 2008 09:21 am (UTC)
I don't know Lois, but I am certainly thinking of and her hoping for as quick and well a recovery as possible. It's amazing how being at one point in time and space can end with such a disaster. Had the train been minute earlier or sooner and this wouldn't have happened. Life is so strange.
silverplate88
Aug. 30th, 2008 05:20 pm (UTC)
Yeah, Kala ... if her attention had just been caught for a minute by a magazine in the station, or the three of them had only stopped to chat for a moment ---

The intersections of threads. Some weavings make you much stonger. Some don't.
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silverplate88
Aug. 29th, 2008 02:12 pm (UTC)
Especially drivers / morons around here. And that's all of them x.x

Even the cops. Just posted about it.
logicalargument
Aug. 28th, 2008 01:21 pm (UTC)
Thank you thank you thank you thank you!
Thank you SO, so much for this post. I've been thinking about Lois pretty much non-stop since I found out about the accident, but I haven't known what to say in an e-mail to her, I figured that John wouldn't have the time to read e-mails to her anyway, and I was afraid to try to get a phone call through because it's hard enough for her to talk through the coughing on a normal day, much less a day in hospital recovering from severe injuries, but I so wished that I could have this kind of glimpse of her - and you gave it to me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
silverplate88
Aug. 29th, 2008 09:36 am (UTC)
Re: Thank you thank you thank you thank you!
You are so welcome, Ellen. You had a hand in linking us up.

I tried to write as much detail as I know she herself would. And I also know she can't wait to feel strong enough again to plunge into LJs, yours, hers, mine, to babble at us. And she will be doing a lot of reading about our comments, too.

Internal injuries are a big energy-drainer, it's not like breaking a nose [ she had quite a smorgasboard going on there.] So I'm sure it will take awhile, but she'll be there!

It was funny -- I kept trying to leave and be careful of her and she just smiled and held up her morphine control valve! I *did* feel more people with me in the room, too ... you were one of them....

I'm really one of her newest Friends and face-to-face I can certainly feel why she is loved so much by you and so many. So I've totally joined. Sure, she is a living link to Anna for me, but it's far more than that now.....:P
justpapabear
Aug. 28th, 2008 01:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you very much. Lois continues to be an inspiration to me and many others. What a sweet lovely spirit. To those of you here that do not know her, you are missing a very special young lady.
silverplate88
Aug. 29th, 2008 09:45 am (UTC)
O PapaBear that is SO true !! !!
elvenforever
Aug. 28th, 2008 09:51 pm (UTC)
Thanks for posting this, Brad, and I hope I am on your short list of people to send that picture to!
silverplate88
Aug. 29th, 2008 09:43 am (UTC)
You certainly, certainly are.
65redroses
Aug. 29th, 2008 05:02 am (UTC)
thank you. i am almost crying with happiness. i have been so worried about her.

this post made my day.

i love lois with all my heart. thank you for being a dear friend!
silverplate88
Aug. 29th, 2008 09:42 am (UTC)
Eva, she is worried about you too. We talked a bit about how you were doing [as far as I knew.] She had linked me to your LJ in the first place, awhile ago, and I'm so happy I could be a bridge on the visit. I can just see the two of you sitting there with one another and searching each other's faces with tears of joy and hope.

Because that is what you offer each other and it totally awes me. Beyond time zones and oceans. Beyond words.
jrsonday
Aug. 29th, 2008 06:56 pm (UTC)
Thank you for this post. Let me know when you get the picture up?

Thinking about her and praying for her ... I am glad she is (relatively) okay. It could've been so much worse ... this makes me very happy.
silverplate88
Aug. 30th, 2008 05:47 am (UTC)
Absolutely will do, JRS. I'll send it as an attachment to Gmail for those whose Emails I have [since I do that all the time, but --- so far --- not from Israel] and I'll also post it in an entry here.

If you had been sitting there with me you would have been awesomely inspired too. All these machines and a web of tubes stuck into her and this big big smile. And Toby.
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