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Converting From Friends Only

Switching out of Friends Only [most of the time.] It's not needed anymore since... well, times have changed! Doesn't mean that Friends status isn't important to me, it is, it always will be :) You can talk to me by messaging me through my LJ mailbox to become a Friend, if you're not, already [it's at the top of of my Profile page]. But to get access to my J, well, almost always not necessary because you'll have it now.

I am a total LJ newbie as of August 2007 [thanks to Kiota.] It's Feb 12, 2008, this day, and I'm not quite so wet behind the ears now. Hopefully.


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Apr. 29th, 2008 11:38 pm (UTC)
Please add
Please add me.. following from Ki journal
May. 5th, 2008 01:03 am (UTC)
heyya. friending you, here from ki's journal (as above).

if you have the banner graphic just upload it to photobucket or tinypic or something and use < img src= >
i doubt the lj maintenance people can tell you much more than that.
May. 5th, 2008 02:59 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sum., you've just told me more than they ever did!
May. 5th, 2008 03:06 am (UTC)
hey, no problem xD that baffled me for a pretty long time.
May. 5th, 2008 03:31 am (UTC)
I'd be all over LJ tech to promote you to their help crew desk --- except that I want to keep you to myself when I have another tech question so I don't have to wait in line XD3 ! !!
May. 5th, 2008 03:41 am (UTC)
hahahah aww, thanks <33
feel free to ask xD
May. 5th, 2008 03:55 am (UTC)
You got it, sum !! <3
May. 6th, 2008 10:44 pm (UTC)
please add me to i knew KI
Jun. 13th, 2008 06:07 pm (UTC)
I've only recently learnt of Anna's death, and from what I've found out, you were rather close to her at the end {geographically and emotionally}.

Is it okay to friend you? Would it be rude to ask you to friend me back? I feel that I need to know about her at the end, and you're the only link I've found.

Jun. 14th, 2008 12:47 am (UTC)
No, Neta, it's not rude at all. I'm going to friend you right now and I want you to feel free to ask me anything you want to....try my best to answer! ... I know at one time you two were quite close :)
Jun. 14th, 2008 12:50 am (UTC)
-- and she was the only one who ever spelled my name that way. :) Did she mention me?

Jun. 14th, 2008 01:01 am (UTC)
Wow, Neta, didn't know that! ... Thought I had misspelled you!! ... No, during that last week, she hadn't mentioned you at all...but was looking forward to getting active [again] with Evergreen's GLBT group and dating new women there. I recall her envy at your being in the IDF and being able to take showers with other women, and that was from an earlier LJ post, a much earlier one, whihc you probably have....
Jun. 14th, 2008 01:04 am (UTC)
I've never seen that post. :) After she went on a friend-purge, I was too afraid to ask to be put back on it. And I only took showers with other girls around in bootcamp, and trust me, we were all too tired to look. :)

I wish I had access to all of her posts. There was so much there.

Jun. 14th, 2008 01:17 am (UTC)
I don't know how to get you to her whole LJ, and my warning for you is that it's full of power and grief, especially at the end of her life, on Saturday night April 12.
There are something above 300 replies to that over the past two months.

I can link you to another user who wanted the same access and couldn't get it, then arranged to use another account to get in to read [she hadn't been friended either.] She's just changed her LJ UIN and I'll go over there now to get it for you. You might be able to introduce yourself to her and perhaps she'll confide in you how she got access. Of course you can use my name!
Jun. 14th, 2008 01:19 am (UTC)
Her name is witchrevolt and her profile page is public. She was ... uhm ... very close to Anna ...
Jun. 19th, 2008 04:54 am (UTC)
Neta, I have given other people access to her journal and I would be happy to give you access too. Please email me and I will send you the password to my journal. You can read hers from my account. She friended me on all of her filters. KTeays@gmail.com
Jun. 19th, 2008 08:39 am (UTC)
And this is great, Cru. I've done the same thing, last week, because Neta requested it and felt shy about asking anyone else; Kiota also Friended *me* on all of her filters. Neta is one of the few of us who had a very close connection to Ki in their personal lives, back a few years ago, and hearing about this now is very devastating to her....she's having a hard time with it all, just as each of us did in April. So I know she will appreciate you :P
Jun. 19th, 2008 09:46 am (UTC)
Hmmm .. 23 hours into this, no answer yet to me from LJ. But it occurs to me that maybe they've picked up password-sharing to persons not originally authorized by Kiota, and *that's* what is pissing them off?? It boggles me that there are 14+ million of these accounts and they are watching ONE ?? x.x

Anyway, you and I [and maybe others] have done this sharing also .... maybe something triggered an automatic shutoff program or something ... these mysterious Russians .... :)
Jun. 19th, 2008 11:24 am (UTC)
Thank you for offering, but I've already found access. :)

Jun. 18th, 2008 11:22 pm (UTC)
Kiota's livejournal was suspended. is there anything we can do about it? :S
Jun. 18th, 2008 11:27 pm (UTC)
Yeah, cru, I just found it out, while I was on, a line appeared through her name. For users who were NOT on, apparently, her name just simply disappeared from their f-lists.

I got an error message flashed up on my screen: Account Suspended, and the words "temporarily suspended" were all I could read.

My first move is to ask for more information from LJ, that's tough, don't quite know where to start....except that in her October 2005 suicide attempts I got a real fast response from LJ Abuse...guess I'll try there first.
Jun. 19th, 2008 12:01 am (UTC)
Now as of 7:59 PM EST I've gotten TWO tracking numbers from them, for my requests. Sooooo, we'll see.

It might be a matter of confidentiality also, so maybe they are framing a response they want us to hear without giving a lot of details...
Jun. 18th, 2008 11:40 pm (UTC)
where did she go?
kk Cru, what i just did is send a query to accounts@livejournal.com in the form of a reply to their acknowledgement of my payment to extend her account till June 2009.

I don't know if that is a monitored inbox or an automatic one, but when I hear anything I'll post about it. *hopes that this 'temporarily suspended' stuff really means temporary....

A couple of hours ago I posted about who owns the rights [legally] to all her writing and photos, and maybe that has something to do with the plug being pulled now. Hoping not, it was so quick ....
Jun. 19th, 2008 03:13 am (UTC)
Well, we're about 3.5 hours into the suspension and I haven't heard anything on my requests for information. As soon as I find out I will post here, for everybody.

LifeWithLogan has suggested that LJ ought to be notified that Kiota has died and should come under their memorial-journal status. I guess nobody has ever done that? So I'll go do that also, right now.
Jun. 19th, 2008 06:55 am (UTC)
Wow, I just noticed that she'd been suspended and thought I'd ask you if you knew anything. Unfortunately the only thing I have to offer is not very encouraging - a friend of mine (fka popartagenda was suspended about a week ago for shaky, unspecific reasons and LJ would not give her her account back (and it had been paid until x date in the future.) Inquiries from friends were met only with a blanket statement about confidentiality. She's back under a new name, but all her writing and pictures from her old journal were lost.

Obviously circumstances are a bit different for kiota...

I did not mean this to be so discouraging. It does seem odd and out of the blue... Good luck with all your efforts. I don't know if anyone has said this to you outright but I think it's really amazing how much you are doing to honor her memory and make sure she lives on through her writing and influence.
Jun. 19th, 2008 08:34 am (UTC)
Well, LIR, thank you a lot for your compliments!

What I'm doing to honor Kiota will go on regardless of what happens to her J and where all that goes from here.

There's one bit of mist I can pass on: one of us noticed that the very last entries to her J before suspension involved someone who asked about the details of how she went through with her sacrifice --- and then someone else posted, who gave a detailed answer. The observer had a hunch that LJ got all pissed off at this and did the immediate suspension. I was in there just before that time and I hadn't noticed anything like that.

Weeks ago cruciatus_x deflected the same question out of Kiota's J and promised to fill anyone in if they wanted that info, via personal Emails. I think it was something like 16 - 20 or more of us published their Email addys in Kiota's J so they could have her reply [I was not one of them.] So maybe this is what triggered LJ Abuse or the TOS Violation Team or whomever.

I expect to hear something back that's more definite than your friend because just three - four days ago I contributed money to renew her account for a year --- since it is such a perfect place for so many of us to meet ...

And, again: you are very kind to me to say that. Thank you, deeply.
Jun. 19th, 2008 04:58 pm (UTC)
reason for suspension
this came in about an hour ago from LJ Abuse, just picked it up now:

"Kiota's journal was suspended at the request of her family. we are required to grant the wishes of family members in cases like these."

I answered with thanks for the explanation and with hopes that they will find some solace and healing there, just as we have.
Apr. 1st, 2009 03:02 pm (UTC)
hi, please could i add you? i had been speaking to anna for about 4 years. as you know it is coming up to 1 year since she took her life, and i'm not coping too well about it, and think i would benefit from reading your posts. is that okay?
Apr. 2nd, 2009 01:04 pm (UTC)
Hi, Charlotte, of course you can. I've just added you. My entries are all public these days but please go back into my archive and read anything and everything you wish that's Friends-Only... since you are now welcomed! ~Brad

Edited at 2009-04-02 01:05 pm (UTC)
Apr. 2nd, 2009 07:17 pm (UTC)
thank you very much :) x
Apr. 3rd, 2009 12:58 pm (UTC)
Please do PM me if I can help with anything else :)
Aug. 26th, 2011 02:37 pm (UTC)
Thinking of you friend. Hope you're well. <3
Oct. 16th, 2011 11:29 am (UTC)
hi again
Alicia -- just catching up to this now, from August 26, so you see how often I get back here! I'm well kindasorta, still traveling in Holland, but atm with some knee-joint pains and fallout from nerve damage in my neck. All of that is still manageable, though!

Hope things will work out with Mark... but *you* come first, you shouldn't need to have to confront his wall keeping you out, when you deserve so much more...

Please keep me posted, kk?

<3 Brad
Nov. 3rd, 2012 02:43 pm (UTC)
Please add me? I was Anna's friend.
Nov. 9th, 2012 02:26 pm (UTC)

Yes, I remember your support and comments for Ki. It wasn't that long ago, was it...

I don't post much anymore but you're welcome to poke around in and read my archives.

And I'm sure you still *are* a friend... of her living legacy.

In case you haven't happened to run across it yet, there's a celebratory LJ account for her, also with her Username KIOTA, set up by another mutual Friend who bought the rights to use her name for memorial purposes. It has a bunch of great links.
Mar. 23rd, 2013 04:21 am (UTC)
Been a while, but happy birthday. :)
Mar. 26th, 2013 03:15 pm (UTC)
Thanks for your birthday wish, Kitten -- I owe you more than one in return! Acutally it's three days later now and I'm still celebrating. Yum :)

Apr. 4th, 2014 11:00 pm (UTC)
Hi Brad. I thought of you recently (a certain someone always taps me on the shoulder this time of year, that must be it) and I've been reading back in your journal these past few days. You're a good soul and I hope that you're well and happy and just as joyously enveloped in life's adventures as usual. Regards. <3
Apr. 14th, 2014 03:00 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Whitney, I've been running across your name (rather constantly!!) as I've been reading through Ki's writing and my notes of our four days together on her campus. I'm happy and joyful but that's when I don't think of my health problems, one being cancer, another being knee-joint degeneration.

Usually getting out to watch a play cures my attention, puts it where it should be!

Just posted a note in your LJ.

Ki certainly still welcomes us to her table, no?

*hugs* <3 Brad
Apr. 17th, 2014 02:43 pm (UTC)
Just wanted to add that usually the "tap on the shoulder" that I get is more like a sudden thought from her that "you should post this" or "remember when we..." or simply that she is in the room with me, sometimes looking over my shoulder (as she did on campus) or smiling. I don't need to turn around to look, in fact I can't, she would be gone.

Blessings be.
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